Measuring the healthy and vitality of different facets of your life is an important step for enjoying an abundant life. Like pieces of a puzzle that fit together to form a picture, your life consists of pieces representing your finances, health, interpersonal relationships, faith, career, etc. Pulling out one piece at a time and examining your vitality, strength, and contentment in that area is important. For instance, without a healthy relationship with yourself, you won;t allow yourself time to have fun, relax, set boundaries, or succeed. You need a healthy relationship with money, or financial pressures will sabotage your efforts to control your life. You need healthy relationships with your family and friends to provide you support, emotional energy, and joy as you juggle your busy life.
Some women are so busy, so engaged and active in their lives, they never slow down…. except when they crash and burn out. At another extreme are those who are stuck in a rut or are paralyzed due to insecurities or limited thinking. They are inactive or disengaged from life. Somewhere in the middle are women who balance the many facets of their lives to remain healthy in every way: physically, financially, emotionally, relationally, intellectually, and spiritually.
If you want to see a difference in your corner of the world without forfeiting your healthy and relationships in the process, you must live intentionally and purposefully.
Many people are concerned that if they slow down, they’ll fall down and never get their motivation back again. The opposite applies to those who are stuck. Some are living mediocre lives and they know it. They’re ready to be unstuck. Others are living mediocre lives and they don’t realize it. They haven’t identified their dis-ease or acknowledged that their lack of contentment or energy comes from being stuck. When they take the time to reflect and evaluate what they need and want to improve their energy, joy or contentment, they become ready to get unstuck. High-achievers can be stuck too… their busyness prevents their acting on the things they really need to do.
Balance for the clients I work with is really about living a life that takes into account the many facets of who they are. It does not apply something akin to balanced scales…. that level of equilibrium, if it exists, doesn’t last long. A balanced life leaves time for the pursuit of health, connectedness to others, and the creative use of one’s skills, talents, and passions.
To live a balanced life does not mean you need to operate at an optimum level in every area of your life all of the time. It’s important to recognize and accept the ebb and flow brought with each season of life. As your new seasons of life change, so will your workout hours, your social times, and the amount of time you put into your work or creativity.
Is there an activity or commitment you have today that doesn’t fit into your life as well as it used to? It’s easy to transition into a new season of life dragging along activities that no longer enhance your life and that of your family. It’s important to take the time necessary to stop and reflect on what might need to take a backseat in a new season in order to keep your balance and contentment through it all.